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You’re fed up. You can’t believe you talked yourself into this. What a waste of time!

Your blog is on the same internet as all the other successful blogs you read. It has an elegant but simple design, and you think you’re a pretty good writer.

Then why are you getting squat in terms of social shares and interaction? And I mean diddly squat!

You have some Twitter followers and hundreds of friends on Facebook, but aside from your wife/mom you have got tumbleweeds for blog traffic.

You have reached your end and you can’t help but thinking?

Have I wasted my time and money on blogging and social media promotion?

Will I ever get people to read my blog?

[Read more…] about A Beginner Blogger’s Guide to Social Media Management

You stare at your blank screen.

Time is ticking.

Words won’t come. There’s no flow.

You try every trick you know to kickstart your writing, but nothing happens.

Nothing.

You feel frustrated and powerless. This is betrayal.

When your words won’t flow, you feel betrayed ? abandoned by your creativity. Powerless to make your living as a writer.

But it’s not just about making a living.

You love to write. You’re motivated to write. You want to write with every fiber of your being. So when you can’t write, it hurts. Deeply.

Most remedies for writer’s block distract you ? provide temporary relief. But they only skim the surface of what’s separating you from your words.

Your creativity rises from deep inside you. So you must go there to unblock your flow.

The Secret Source of Your Creativity

Creativity doesn’t come from your working mind.

Your working mind is the one that calculates, identifies, categorizes, reasons, thinks. Psychologists call this your ?cognitive consciousness.?

While you need your working mind to organize and construct your writing, that’s part two of your writing process. First you must have ideas and inspiration.

Ideas and inspiration arise from the deeper levels of your consciousness. Your non-cognitive levels. They come from your creative mind ? the one that feels just out of reach when you have writer’s block.

Unless you connect regularly to your deeper levels, over time you lose touch with them. They are still there, and you sense that they are still there, but you are blocked from them. Then you can’t write. At all.

Why Does Your Creativity Get Blocked?

Tension.

Tension in your body blocks your ability to access your creativity.

The sneaky thing about tension is that you create and hold onto it without even being aware of it.

Much of what you do during the day ? for work, for fitness, to manage your busy life ? contributes to core tensions in your body. These tensions obstruct your creative mind.

When your body holds tension and stress, you can’t access the deeper levels of your consciousness. Your creative mind and creative flow are obstructed.

You become like the proverbial garden hose with a kink in it. As the kink tightens, the flow becomes more and more restricted ? barely a trickle. At this point, most of us do one of two things: ?turn up the water pressure or turn the water completely off.

When you can’t write and you try distractions, either you shut down completely or you up the tension in your body, hoping to get a little more flow.

When you turn the pressure on and try to force inspiration, you’re using your working mind, and your creative mind shuts down. If you turn the pressure off with a distraction, after a while you might be able to get a few thoughts through the kink, but only a few. ?And it’s only a temporary solution.

Effective solutions to writer’s block involve unkinking the hose, permanently, and restoring your natural creative flow.

Dissolving tensions systematically in your body allows you to unkink your body, then your mind, then your creative flow.

The good news is that you need only one tool to do this, and you already have it.

The Ancient Secret to Unstoppable Word Flow

Did you know that ancient writers and philosophers could not read without sounding their words aloud?

Cicero, the brilliant philosopher who flourished around 63 B.C., in a letter to one of his correspondents, apologizes for not answering sooner. In this letter he explains that he couldn’t read his friend’s letter because ?my throat was sore.? It never occurred to him that he could read silently and still be engaged with the words.

Ancient writers had scribes. Writers spoke their words aloud, and scribes wrote them down ? taking dictation. Then the writers revised and restructured the written word from the spoken word.

People then were keenly aware of the power of the sounds of their words ? the connection of their words to their breath. Even when, in the Renaissance, people began to read silently, they still coordinated their reading with their breathing.

You still do this. You just aren’t aware of it. If you’re not convinced, try reading silently to yourself while holding your breath.

How does that work for you? Do you find your ability to hold onto meaning fade when your breath stops flowing through your body?

That’s because you can’t see your words, you can’t feel them, you can’t hear them until you add your breath to them. Your breath gives life to your words, carrying them from the inside of you to the outside ? into the world to touch you and others, literally, with their sound.

Because reading and writing have become silent, you’ve simply lost this connection.

Even when you read or write silently, your breath plays an important part in connecting your ideas and inspiration to your words ? to your writing.

Your breath is the bridge between your inspiration, your ideas, your words, and your working mind which must structure them into a coherent piece of written work.

How to Unblock Your Creativity in Only 10 Minutes

The Latin root for the word inspire is ?spirare? ? which means ?to breathe.? Inspire literally means ?to breathe into.? That’s how intimate the connection between your words and your breath is.

That’s why using your breath to unblock your words is effective.

Dissolving the tensions in your body with your breath removes the kinks that block your creative ideas. Then your words flow ? you liberate them, and they flow through your body and out on your breath.

You gradually unkink the garden hose.

All you need to do this simple practice is a chair, the floor, a timer, and ten minutes. If you are in a noisy space, ear buds or ear plugs would be helpful.

Step 1: Remove All Distractions

Turn off your phone. This is really important.

Make sure alerts and messaging are turned off. It’s critical when connecting to your inspiration that you not be interrupted. Interruptions will instantly disrupt the connection to your inspiration, and you won’t be able to get back to it without starting over.

Set a timer for ten minutes so your mind isn’t busy counting. Ideally you have a timer that works when your phone and messaging is off.

Step 2: Assume the Position

The optimal position for inspiration using your breath to release tensions in your core is lying on your back on the floor with your legs resting over a chair or ottoman or even a coffee table. Whatever you do, don’t lie flat ? the crunch in your low back when you lie flat creates spinal tension that blocks your breath.

Bend your knees and rest your calves over the seat of the chair. Make sure your chair has an opening at the back so that your feet can slide through the back ? i.e., not be jammed up against anything.

Place something under your head ? a small pillow or folded towel so that your forehead is slightly higher than your chin. This uncrunches your neck.

Step 3: Observe Your Breath

Once you set your timer, soften into the seat and the floor ? softening your head, your face, your arms, your torso, your legs, your feet.

Now notice where in your body you feel your breath moving and resting.

Your breath has four parts. It flows in and pauses. It flows out and pauses. ?Become aware of these facets of your breath.

Now listen and observe. At first the pauses may be difficult to find. That’s fine. ?They are there, and you will notice them in time.

Watch where your breath goes, how it sounds as it goes, whether it pauses, and if it pauses, rest in the pause.

And then you keep breathing easily and softly.

You listen.

As you listen, that sound may change, and your breath may change. It may get louder, softer, longer, shorter, deeper, or more shallow.

Whatever your breath is doing is fine.

If you find your thoughts starting to intrude or worries entering your mind, bring your attention back to your breath.

Focus on that.

Do this for ten minutes.

Step 4: Take a Moment

At the end of your breathing practice, give yourself a minute to re-enter your space. Move gently and slowly.

If you are in the middle of a writing block with a deadline looming, take a little transitional break. Get something to drink, take a slow, easy, short stroll around your office or home. Have a little snack.

Your words will flow.

If you don’t experience dramatic positive change after your first practice, that’s okay. Tension builds in your body in layers. You likely have so much tension built up that you’ll need time to fully unkink.

Give yourself that time. Your body isn’t a machine, to be quickly calibrated. It can take time to dissolve tension and reconnect with the source of your creative flow.

When You Unkink Your Creativity Your Words Will Pour Out of You

It’s time. ?Time to come back to your screen.

Time is still ticking.

The screen is still blank.

But it feels different, doesn’t it? ?The deadlines don’t bother you.

You come back to your screen and notice that you’ve shifted from anxiety about getting words down to calm excitement.

You may have a completely different sense about what you’re writing. A unique perspective, a fresh insight, a savvy positioning of your message.

You won’t strive and strain for your words. You won’t force them.

They will just flow, like your breath.

Dissolving tension with your breath allows you to write from a place of ease.

As you continue to practice even when you are not blocked, your words will become unstoppable. Just ten minutes a day, or even every other day, and your core tensions will dissolve, and with them your block to writing.

This is ancient wisdom. It’s readily applicable wisdom. And now it’s yours.

Writing and maintaining a blog is hard.

But it is nothing compared to actually finding readers for your blog.

If you find yourself going through the frustration of not being able to generate enough interest in your blog post and not being able to improve its visibility in search engine rankings, you?re not alone. I?ve been there. It?s not a good place to be.

And it?s not easy to get out. But it?s not impossible either. If you want to generate backlinks for your blog and receive likes and shares on social media, I have two words for you:

Expert Roundups.

What Are Expert Roundups?

The hint is in the name.

An expert roundup is usually a blog post or a piece of content that rounds up the opinions of all the experts in that particular niche.

In essence, it brings together the best and most valuable suggestions on the topic at hand.

Think of it as a compilation music album that gathers the best of the best to pack them all into a powerful punch.

With a roundup blog post, the readers can receive insights from some of the most respected names in the industry.

You can use roundups to expand your blog?s reach as well as maximize your conversion ratio.

Why Expert Roundups Are Blowing Up Around the Web

Like many bloggers who are starting out, Tor Refsland felt the frustration of not getting any attention on his posts.

He was fed up of what he referred to as the triple zero club comprised of people who received zero shares, page views, and comments.

So he decided to try something new for his blog.

He decided to go for a roundup post.

Not just that.

He decided to go all in and create a truly epic post on the biggest productivity tips. But there was something special.

The post included contributions from some of the leading experts and influence in the field.

It was a massive success.

Within a few days, Tor received 20,231 page views, 1,500 shares, and 84 comments on his blog post.

And this is just the beginning.

His post also got the number three spot on Google search under the keyword ?productivity tip’.

There are plenty of reasons why expert roundups work so well when nothing else does.

The biggest reason is that they actually offer something substantial to the readers. They offer actionable tips that the readers can use. The expert opinions bring a certain level of credibility to what?s being said.

The experts, themselves, are a huge reason why these posts are so insanely successful. Each expert featured on the post is an influencer in their respective fields.

If the post successfully manages to get a lot of backlinks on their websites, it contributes to an increase in shares as well as the creation of content that will rank in search engines.

An Actionable Guide on Creating Expert Roundup Posts

This brings us to our main question.

How do you actually go about creating a roundup post?

Where do you start?

Where do you end?

Don?t worry.

By the end of this post, you?ll have a much better idea and a direction.

Here?s A Step-By-Step Guide To Creating Expert Roundups:

1. Find Top Blogs within Your Niche

The first thing you need for an expert roundup is the actual experts. And where do you find them?

Well, you start your search by looking for some of the best and most followed blogs in your niche.

There are two advantages of doing that. First, the top bloggers in your niche are top bloggers for a reason.

They have the knowledge and the experience that gives their voice the authority you need to give your roundup post heft and weight.

The second reason you need top bloggers is that they come with a lot of followers.

They?re not just experts in their niche — they?re also influencers. And you need those precious backlinks to improve your website?s search engine ranking.

Also, a recommendation from their social media page would send followers flocking your way.

But how do you actually find those top blogs?

One of the best ways to do that, according to Karol K, is plain old Google. He says:

?There are two ways you can use Google: (1) looking for blogs one by one, or (2) searching for list posts compiled by other people that already showcase the top blogs in a given niche. The latter is a much more effective approach.?

It?s simple.

Type in ?best?, followed by your niche, followed by ?blogs? into Google and hit enter.

Here?s an example:

2. Choose a Topic That Rocks

What?s the point in writing a blog if almost anything you can contribute has been said already?

Picking a niche and sticking to it is not enough. You need to find areas in your niche that have not been addressed.

That doesn?t mean you have to be so specific that no one, except for a few people, are interested in the topic.

You need to find that right balance in being interesting for everyone and being original and innovative. In short, you need to find a topic that rocks!

One way to go about it is to use Quora for your search.

Quora gives you a snapshot of what people are generally looking for in your niche. This gives you an idea of the demand in the market.

And not just that, but you also get to know about how people frame that demand. According to Benjamin Brandall:

?Keywords are, at their core, a human way to accurately query a massive database. We want to match our keywords to the ones people are actually searching for, which means being in tune with the way they speak.?

In addition to providing you your topic, Quora will also let you promote your post. Read more about that here.

Here?s an example of how a simple search would offer you tons of stuff to write on:

3. Choose a Keyword You Can Rank For

If you want your expert roundup to do well, you can?t shoot in the dark and hope it strikes the bull?s-eye.

When good bloggers sit down to write a blog post, they don’t do so haphazardly. They know exactly what they?re doing.

How so?

They do keyword research. When you set out to find a topic, you also need a keyword that?s popular with the audiences.

This is one of the things that blogger Emil Shour used to take his site from the bottom of the barrel to the number one spot in Google rankings.

He conducted a keyword research and found a demand for the keyword ?wellness program ideas?.

From then onwards, his task was simple. Take his website to the number one spot in that keyword search. And he did it!

4. Email Your Group Experts

Once you?re all set and ready with a specific topic in your niche, it?s time to conduct the actual research and generate content.

In this case, both of these steps involve emailing your group of experts and asking for a comment.

For instance, if you?re writing about beating writer?s block, you need to email blog writers and ask for actionable tips on how to achieve that.

Be sure to ask them about their personal experiences as they help the readers relate to the problem and the solution.

Here?s an example of how I contacted Anita Campbell of Small Business Trends when it came to writing my own expert roundup blog:

Anita was really kind.

She took out valuable time from her schedule to come up with this suggestion:

And so, the brief interaction was a small success.

5. Publish and Alert Your Contributors

Once you publish the blog, you?ve only achieved half of what you originally set out to do. Working hard to compile a variety of tips from a variety of experts won?t lead you anywhere if no one actually reads your blog post.

And, to make sure people do, you need a small favor from the aforementioned experts again.

You need them to link your post on their website and/or share your blog post through social media as well.

Experts don?t just bring valuable opinions to the table. They bring actual followers as well.

After my post went live, I alerted Anita about it and actually got a link on her website Small Business Trends:

6. Promote Your Expert Roundup through Inbound.org

Okay, so you?ve finally finished writing the expert roundup blog post. Your labor of love has finally come to an end.

Now if there could just be a place where you can find an eager audience, how wonderful would that have been?

Well, good news! There is such a place.

And it?s called inbound.org.

Inbound allows you to reach experts, influencers, and interested audiences at the same time.

Seriously, what?s not to love?

Here?s an example of a post that I made on my website as well as on Inbound.

Within just a few days, it got thousands of page views and a bunch of comments from Inbound alone:

The Final Word

So you see?

Expert roundups are a smart way to acquire an audience by tapping into other people?s resources.

If you work hard and do your research, amazing things will happen.

I mean, who knows?

Maybe you could even end up earning six figures from your blog.

Now that you?ve seen how to use expert roundups to generate links and social shares on autopilot, I?d like to hear from you.

What do you think of the expert roundups?

Or maybe you have a question about creating expert roundup posts.

Either way, leave a quick comment below.

I?ll be around to reply to comments and answer questions.

Boom! You just published your latest masterpiece. It took you a couple hours to do so and you?re quite proud of it.

So are two million other bloggers. According to MarketingProfs, that?s the number of blog posts published every single day.

Will your post stand the test of time or be forgotten in a matter of days?

Back in 2005, when blogging was brand new, you could just publish crappy articles on a consistent basis and get a lot of traffic.

Today, if you want to get noticed, you need to create remarkable content. Quality beats quantity on every level.

It?s better to create ONE remarkable piece in a month than to publish numerous boring articles every week. It is true in the short term and in the long term.

In this article, I will show you the kind of results you can get by publishing top-notch content. Then, I?ll share with you 7 strategies that will allow you to get similar results. You will learn:

• How to create content that keeps driving traffic and subscribers MONTHS after publication.
• How to create content that helps you build authority and be recognized as THE expert in your field.
• How to get more guest blogging invitations, more clients and more sales thanks to your blog posts.

Sound good? I even created a handy table of content to help you navigate:

1. What is Remarkable Content?
2. Who Are You Writing For and What Problem Are You Solving For Them?
3. Tell Stories, Give Examples, and Show Instead of Telling.
4. Should You Write Long or Short Articles?
5. Make Your Article Readable, Structured, and Easily Skimmable
6. Write a Compelling CTA
7. Go the Extra Mile
8. Your Next Step

And at the end of the article, you can download a cheat sheet for creating remarkable content that summarizes everything you will learn today.

Ready? Let?s dive in.

1. What is Remarkable Content?

When Tim Soulo looked at his data on guest blogging, he realized he was averaging only 50 visitors per guest post. Naturally, he concluded guest blogging was not a good strategy for getting traffic.

A similar survey by Mirasee revealed that 46% of their audience was getting less than 25 subscribers per guest post.

But is this always true? Look at a few?examples of remarkable content and the results obtained by their authors.

Alp Turan’s How Complete Newbies Can Land Killer Guest Posts: The Ultimate Guide

It?s hard for me to talk about remarkable content without mentioning Alp?s post.

His post is a point of reference in the world of guest blogging. He didn?t just give a few tips here and there to land guest post opportunities. No, he gave you everything you need to know about guest blogging ? everything from building a relationships with bloggers to crafting the best pitch ever.

It is 20,000-word long and is an extreme example of remarkable content. The good thing is that it got him extreme results as well:

• 300+ subscribers (and counting).
• A close relationship with the host site’s owner, Sean Ogle (Alp can reach out to him at any time if he needs help)
• 2 other guest blogging invitations
• 1 joint venture offer
• New 4-figure client

You could never get those results with most of the content you find on the internet. Indeed, it took him dozens of hours to get it done, but the results made it worth it.

Danny Margulies’ How to Become a Copywriter Quickly Using My “Crystal Ball Technique”

This post is SO good that it still gets comments every month?even though it was published over a year ago.

Look at the numbers:

• 200+ comments
• 700+ social media shares
• Probably hundreds of new subscribers

But that is only half of the story.

For more than a year, Danny had only two posts on his blog. Was it because he was too lazy to publish new blog posts?

No, it was because he had published remarkable content and there was no need to publish anything else. The two articles he had on his website were enough to get traffic, subscribers, and establish his authority as an expert in his field.

He shared his story in How I built a 6-figure online business in 12 months. With only two articles on his website, he was able to make 6 figures over a year.

So-called experts often recommend publishing every week?(or even every day) as the key to building your blog. It isn?t true. These experts don?t know the power of remarkable content.

Charles Bordet’s How to Write 1,000 Words Every Day and Massively Create Remarkable Content

This post has been the turning point of my business.

Before publishing it, I was still a struggling blogger with no revenue and a lot of doubts on whether I would be successful one day or not.

Two months after publishing it, with 300 new subscribers, I was selling my first product and made my first 15 sales. I was now in business.

It didn?t stop here, though. Even today, I still reap the benefits of this post without doing anything. Without any promotion, I got 17 new opt-ins in the last 90 days:

Now, it?s true that 17 subscribers are not a lot, considering I got hundreds after the publication of the article.

Yet, when I compare this with the standard content I published in the past that got me less than 10 subscribers (and I?m sure this happened to you as well), I?m pretty happy with this free bonus.

Now that you have an idea of what remarkable content is and the kind of results you can get out of it, let?s talk about how to create it.

The first step is to know your audience like the back of your hand.

2. Who Are You Writing For and What Problem Are You Solving For Them?

I keep seeing time and time again articles about fitness, productivity, social skills, etc. that try to appeal to everyone. And, by doing so, they appeal to no one.

Why You Must Pick a Specific Audience

Let?s start with an example in the productivity industry. I know this industry well, because that?s where I started my website. And like so many others, I made the mistake of trying to appeal to everyone.

For example, you may?try to help people be more productive in their everyday lives by being more efficient ? thereby completing their tasks faster ? so they can enjoy more free time.

It might sound good in theory, but who is your target reader? “Everyone?”

The examples, stories, and solutions that you will give should be completely different depending on who you are trying to help.

Think of how the challenges are different for a 9-to-5 employee, a stay-at-home mom who wants to get freelancing clients, a solo entrepreneur, a student, and so on.

By picking a specific audience and knowing them well, you will be able to have a lot more impact than you would targeting everyone.

For example, when I switched from helping people be?more productive to helping bloggers create more content on a regular basis, my business completely changed. People started to listen to what I was saying and they also started to buy what I was selling.

Instead of helping “everyone”, I was helping a specific audience (?bloggers who struggle to create content consistently?) achieve a specific result (?write 1,000 words a day, consistently, to create a ton of content”) with productivity tools and strategies.

The examples and stories I used directly targeted the specific desires of my audience.

So what is the difference between a detailed, specific audience and a broad audience?

To make sure your writing will be compelling, you need these three things:

• A detailed description of the audience you?re trying to help

• A list of burning pains this audience has

• A list of burning desires this audience has

For example, let?s say you are in the fitness industry. Helping a young woman in her twenties and?helping a busy executive in his fifties are?completely different ? even though the basics of nutrition or exercising you will teach them are similar.

In short, your?language and your marketing strategy will be completely different.

To the young woman, you will tell her about looking sexy, about having a flat stomach, etc. To the busy executive, you will focus your message on?exercising with limited time, about losing the pounds he accumulated through the years, and so on.

Instead of just simply writing about fitness, how to eat better, or exercise more; you will start writing about how your specific audience can achieve a burning desire and solve a burning pain. It?s not about you and your knowledge in fitness ? it?s about them, achieving their desires, and solving their problems.

If you can write about what people want, they won?t stop reading.

Now let?s talk about the specifics: How to define your audience and how to find out about their pains and desires.

How to Define Your Audience

The best way to define your audience is to create an Ideal Client Profile (ICP). This is the story and description of your ideal client. He may only exist in your mind, but he?will give you a specific picture of the type of person you?re writing for.

For example (staying in the fitness industry), let?s say I?m targeting busy executives who are in their fifties and want to lose weight. I will try to create a picture of my ideal client:

He is John, he?s 54, works in a big company, and has had a lot of success in his career. Now he?s a top executive and has a lot of responsibilities. Of course, as a result, he works a lot and has limited time with his family and to take care of himself.

He always eats lunch in front of?his computer and often eats junk food when he?s traveling. When he was younger, he played a lot of soccer, which made him fit, but since his thirties he?s been exercising less and less. And while he?s been trying to jog from time to time, he can?t stick to it.

See how accurate I try to be? And this is just the beginning of the story.

The more specific you are, the better. Don?t worry about being too specific, it?s almost impossible.

There are different factors to define your ideal client that will depend on your industry. For example:

• Demographics: Age, gender, location, marital status, children or not, social status, etc.
• Their activity: Are they working? In a full-time job? Entrepreneurs? Are they staying at home?
• A typical day: What does a typical day look like for them? How are they spending their time? What do they do on a Saturday afternoon?

These are only suggestions.

You shouldn?t try to guess anything. While I made up the story above, you should directly talk with your audience to know them better.

That?s why it?s so important to communicate with your subscribers and people potentially in your audience on Facebook groups, Reddit, in your friends? circles, etc.

The next step is to ask them for their pains and desires.

How to Know Their Pains and Desires

You need to know exactly what they want to achieve (what I call desires) and what prevents them from achieving it (what I call pains).

If you can solve a deep burning problem they think about every day, they will read your article no matter what.

Think about someone who has back pain. Every morning when they get up, their back hurts. They are obsessed with it, so every day they look for solutions on the internet until one day they stumble upon your blog ? specifically, your comprehensive guide on how to reduce back pain.

At that point, you can make grammar mistakes and write like a 6th grader, but it won?t matter because you will be solving their deep burning pain.

That?s why creating remarkable content is not about being able to craft beautiful sentences or being a master at grammar. You need to be good enough at this, of course (you don’t want to annoy your readers), but really it shouldn?t be a priority. No, your priority should be helping your readers with their pains and desires.

The best way to know the pains and desires of your audience is to ask your subscribers in the first email they receive from you. Ask this question:

What is your biggest challenge when it comes to?X?

Replace ?X? with your industry (for example: losing weight, getting more subscribers, writing, etc.)

Then keep the conversation going. Try to go deep in what they want, why they want it, how it impacts their lives, and what it would mean to them if you could solve their problems. You want to picture their lives as accurately as possible.

If you can, jump on a call with them, as you will be able to go much deeper than by emails. Make it about helping them, and as you help them, keep asking questions to know them better.

Once you know who they are, what they want, and what they?re struggling with, you can write a specific blog post that will solve a specific problem they have.

What Problem Are You Solving For Them?

Every article you write should solve a specific problem and let the reader go away with a clear solution.

Before showing you what to do, let?s talk about what everyone else is doing.

Most articles won?t give you any solution for your problems. Here are three types of common articles on the internet:

Inspirational Articles

They tell a story and then leave you with nothing to actually change your life. But, you do get a short burst of inspiration.

Feel-Good Articles

They make you feel good. They have headlines like??18 Reasons why X is important.?Since half the population is doing X,?these articles work as a form of affirmation.

(The other half of the population feels guilty because they aren’t doing X. Think they should do something about it, but don?t know what to do.)

Superficial Articles

Finally, a lot of articles are actually trying to solve many problems at the same time, but on a superficial level. They are often list articles, and a typical headline would be ?10 Habits That Will do X?.

Then, you get a short article with just a few lines per habit and it leaves you overwhelmed because you don?t know where to start. Additionally, it doesn?t guide you in how to achieve each point ? it?s far too superficial.

Some of these articles can be useful sometimes, don?t get me wrong. Not everybody wants to read a big, long, comprehensive guide like this one. But they are NOT remarkable and will soon be forgotten.

On the other hand, when you write something useful for your readers, focusing on one specific problem, giving them one specific solution and a clear action plan, they will come back to the article time and time again until it?s solved.

For example, in this article, I’m helping you create remarkable content because you want to write compelling articles that people will keep reading until the end.

My hope is that every time you want to write a new blog post, you come back to refer to this article to make sure you?ve done everything right.

The best way to solve a specific problem is to write a How-To post.

Basically, the title will be something like ?How to Solve This Problem? or ?How to Achieve This Desire?. The How-To part can sometimes be changed for a number if the solution is broken down into several steps.

For this article, I could have called it ?How to Write Remarkable Content Easily?, but I chose to start with a number because list articles tend to perform better and because the post fit well with this title since I give you several steps on the way to create remarkable content.

Neil Patel is the king of creating remarkable content, and in each of his articles, he will either solve a specific problem or help you achieve a specific desire.

Look at some of his recent?articles:

There are many ?How To? articles, and the others could easily?be replaced by a How-To headline.

(The only exception is the article called ?I Need Your Help??, which is a short-term oriented post to promote his book. In this case, he has no need to create something remarkable that people will keep reading months later.)

Now, how to find what problems your audience has?

Again: Communicate directly with your readers:

• Add an email in your welcome series to ask what they?re struggling with
• Send an email to your email list to ask what they want you to write for them
• Find Facebook Groups, subreddit, Quora topics, etc., to know what people are struggling with

Don?t try to guess. People will tell you directly what they need if you ask them, and that?s the only way you can create content that is specifically tailored to their needs.

3. Tell Stories, Give Examples, and Show Instead of Telling

Writing an article is not about providing information. It?s about making a transformation.

Michael Ellsberg put it beautifully in his talk:?Your Competitive Advantage is Not Information, It?s Transformation.

In this talk, he explains how?being an information provider (what a lot of bloggers think they are) is a losing strategy. Nowadays, information is cheap and abundant. You can find everything you need thanks to Google.

However, you?re not just here to provide the right information to your readers ? you?re here to help them change their lives and solve their problems. Your goal is not just to give them the information that will solve their problems, but to make it actually happen.

That?s what Michael Ellsberg call “Transformation.” You provide a transformation to your readers, and that?s where your competitive advantage is.

That is also the reason why you can build a successful fitness blog despite the existence of so many similar blogs in the blogosphere. You may provide the same information, but the way you provide it will make different people take action.

For example, I am a non-English native speaker and I help bloggers to write good content on a regular basis. Other non-English native speakers can more easily relate to my situation and be inspired by the journey I made from not being able to speak English to where I am today.

On the other hand, a?native-English?guy from the United States who does the same thing will attract a different kind of audience that will (most likely) relate to him more than?me.

We are changing the lives of our readers with our stories ? not just by feeding them with information.

So how do you do that exactly? How do you provide a transformation and not just information?

To create a transformation and not just be an information-provider, you need to tell stories, give examples, and add pictures and explanations.

My first blog posts were terrible and huge failures. I thought people only had to have the right information and that I could give it to them.

So I made my first posts about giving as much information as possible. I was giving strategies, tools, techniques, everything I knew that would solve their problems.

But it didn?t work. Those articles were failures.

Then, I changed my approach to writing and wrote How to Find 10 Hours per Week to Work on Your Side Business. This was my first really successful article and it is completely different than what I used to write before.

It is filled with personal stories, with me talking about myself, about my life, my experiences, putting pictures of my life, and eventually talking about one of the most common topic in the world of productivity: the morning routine.

But because 90% of the article was stories/examples/pictures, people loved it. I thought it was just ?me, me, me? and that it would be boring to people, but it was exactly the opposite. People could relate to my situation, imagine themselves in my shoes, and then they felt compelled to take action at the end of the article.

There are four ways you can create a transformation: Stories, examples, pictures, and explanations.

Stories

A story is what I just did in the previous paragraphs. I told you about my experience with my first articles, how they were failures, and what I changed to write my first successful post.

A basic story is:

• I was failing at X
• Then I did A, B, and C
• Finally, I am successful at X

This is the most basic story, but it will work. For a more comprehensive analysis of what makes a story irresistible, I recommend this guide from Alaura Weaver: “Storyhacking: Cracking the code behind the irresistible selling power of stories.”

Examples

I first read about how to use examples from Bryan Harris in his post ?Expanded Guest Post: How to 100x the effectiveness of your next guest post?.

He says that to write a good article, you simply need to use the phrase ?For example?.

Every time you make a point, affirm something, or talk about something; start things off with these two little words:?”For example.”?This will allow you to go deeper, give more details, and illustrate your writing with something concrete with which your readers can associate.

Here is an exercise for you: Type ?Ctrl + F? on your keyboard and search for the phrase ?For example? in this article. You will find it?numerous?times, simply because I?m constantly trying to give more examples to illustrate what I write.

Pictures

Pictures are powerful examples. You?ve heard the saying: ?A picture is worth a 1,000 words?.

I already told you to try to put examples every time you talk about something. Well, also ask yourself if you can add a picture of it. Sometimes it simply won?t be relevant. Other times, it will make your article a lot more valuable.

When you explain how to use a tool, nothing beats a screenshot with some annotations. You can easily add annotations on a picture with Skitch.

I like to use Gyazo. It’s a?tool to take screenshots, upload them at light speed, and then annotate them.

Explanations

Sometimes you?re just not inspired to find a good story. You don?t have any good example in mind and pictures are not relevant to what you want to say.

In this case, you need to explain your point in plain English. This is the least preferable option since it doesn?t really help your reader to visualize what you mean, and it?s easy to ramble?when explaining.

But you?ll notice that sometimes you don?t have a choice, in particular when you get into technical explanations of processes or tactics.

So, there you have it: Four ways to expand on the points you make in your articles. They?re not necessarily exclusive; you can give explanations, and illustrate them with a picture, then add an example, to finally end with a quick story.

You can mix them as much as you want. And I actually recommend that in the first place you write as much as possible, put as many examples/stories/etc. as possible. And later, when you?ll edit your article, you will get rid of the unnecessary components.

Thinking with the ?information/explanation? framework will not only make the writing much easier for you, but also make the life of your reader much easier.

If you?re a blogger, you know that writing is hard. It?s hard for everyone, even for experienced writers. However, using the framework I just showed will make the process?easier. Look at what my outline looked like for this section:

It reads like this: First I make a point. This is just one or two sentences about what I want to say.

Then I put bullet points and fill them with all the stories, examples, pictures, and explanations I can think of.

It takes a little bit of time to write this outline, but it makes you gain a TON of time down the line. Think about how easy it was for me to write my first draft. All I needed to do was copy/paste the sentences in bold, and then expand on the examples.

It also gives you an overall structure of your section. By having such a high-level vision, it helps you decide whether the links between your points make sense or not.

Usually, you start with the main point of the section, and then you try to anticipate the questions your readers might have. Simply ask questions such as ?Why??, ?How?? and ?What if ??? and you?ll get a comprehensive article.

Using this framework, your section will be easily written, well structured, and enriched with a ton of examples. Your readers will love it.

4. Should You Write Long or Short Articles?

Really, length doesn?t matter that much. You should write as many words as it takes to write a compelling article, but no more.

Most content on the internet is too short. People just spend a couple hours on it and don?t really take the time to dig into it. Their goal is quantity-oriented (i.e. posting as many posts as possible) instead of quality-oriented.

For example, you might have heard time and time again that you need to publish on your blog every week. Some people even recommend publishing every day.

But? really? Do you see Kevin J. Duncan publishing every week? Even including guest posts, we don?t see many articles on Be A Better Blogger. But?it doesn?t matter!?Why? Because every time there is a new article, it?s a high-quality one.

Too short doesn?t stand the test of time. It will give you a short burst of traffic, but fade away a few days later. And that leads to you?needing to create more articles. That?s why those people are focusing on quantity and try to publish as much as possible.

On the other hand, remarkable content gives you a lot of traffic right away, it slowly fades away but still sticks for months, and builds up as other articles are added.

A study done by OkDork and BuzzSumo showed that the longer the content, the more shares it gets.

What?s even more interesting is that there were 16 times more content with less than 1000 words than there were content with 2000 or more words. This proves that?most bloggers focus on quantity. So if you want to stand out and do something differently, focus on quality.

Now, too long is not good either. First, it?s long, by definition, so it takes a lot of time to read, and time is the most limited resource of your readers. So if you ask them of their time to read your stuff, you better have something really good.

You should have just the ideal length that gives you enough words to explain everything you want without rambling and repeating yourself too much.

How to find the ideal length? I use a two-step process in the writing of my articles: First, write as much as possible, then cut as much as possible.

I use the ?Information/Explanation? framework that I explained in the previous section, so I write information, and then I explain it with stories, examples, and so on.

The first step of the writing is to put as many stories and examples as possible. I put everything I can think of, write the stories completely, and I don?t hold myself back.

Of course, if you publish this draft, it will be filled with lots of rambling, repetitions, and boring stories.

The second step is to cut the writing as much as possible. For each paragraph, I ask myself questions such as:

• Is this story/example/etc. essential to explain my point?
• How could I explain it more simply?
• Can I replace this explanation by a picture? How can I show instead of tell?

The goal is to keep the same information and to make it crystal clear with just the right amount of examples explained in just the right amount of words.

Yes, this is a lot of work. You need to go through your article a second time, and it?s not just editing for grammar mistakes. It?s not something you can outsource easily. But remember, we?re creating remarkable content here.

5. Make Your Article Readable, Structured, and Easily Skimmable

As stated before, remarkable content tends to be long, and long content takes a lot of time to read. So you better make it easy for your readers.

What do you do when you stumble upon a long article? Before even starting to read it, you scroll down to see what it looks like.

What do you see then? The subheadlines, the overall structure of the article, and the pictures. This all happens in a matter of seconds and this is your first contact with the article.

It means that if the subheadlines aren?t good, or if the overall structure of the article is confusing, people may just close the window and move on to something else.

In the introduction of this guide, I showed you an example of remarkable content by Alp Turan: How Complete Newbies Can Land Killer Guest Posts: The Ultimate Guide.

Now, despite being a good article, it?s also a good example of what a confusing structure is. If you start scrolling down, you?ll quickly identify 3 main parts for the article.

However, the article being 20,000-word long, you need a bit more structure than those 3 big parts, and that?s where it gets confusing. The issue is that different levels of headlines look exactly the same:

So, when you scroll down, you don?t really know where you are in the article, and you have to take a step back to identify the overall structure of the post.

How can you?avoid this?

First, you could simply put a table of contents. When you read a book, this gives you an idea of what the book will contain. If there is no table of contents and you need to skim through the book to find all the chapter titles and so on, it gets confusing and will take a lot of time.

For example, in the article The Ultimate Guide to Creating High-Quality Content Every Time, there is a nice table of contents right at the beginning that tells you directly and clearly what you will find in the article. It also gives you links to easily navigate in the article:

Your readers need to have a clear idea of what your article is about and what it contains in a matter of seconds.

Here is what you can do to have a clear structure to help your readers:

• Add a table of contents if your article is long.
• Limit yourself to two levels of headlines maximum. More gets easily confusing. Different levels of headlines need to have different formatting (H2, H3, H4, bold, etc.).
• Number your headlines.
• Write short paragraphs.?More than 5 lines for a paragraph looks like a wall of text, and nobody likes to read a wall of text.
• Cut down complex sentences into simple ones. This is a bit of an extra, but this will help you article looks a little bit better. Copy/Paste your article in the Hemingway App. It will identify the very hard to read sentences, then it?s up to you to find simpler alternatives.

If you’ve made it this far, you have done an incredible job at creating a remarkable article. Now you don?t just write articles for the sake of writing articles. You have a goal behind it: being getting exposure, getting subscribers, getting sales, etc.

This goal will be achieved thanks to the Call-to-Action (CTA) at the end of the article. This is the one thing you don?t want to screw up.

6. Write a Compelling CTA

A good CTA won?t make your article more remarkable, but a bad CTA will make it a complete failure and screw up all your efforts.

Before telling you how to write a good CTA, I want to show you a CTA that has performed extremely well:

This CTA is an entire subsection right at the end of the article. It performed well for so many reasons that we will discuss in a moment. But this CTA wasn?t?given only once. It was also spread throughout the article.

Right at the beginning:

And also in the middle of the article:

Now let?s talk about why it performed so well. Here are the 7 elements for a successful CTA:

A)?Make it natural

In the above?examples, my CTA is a part of the article.?Too often you will see a separated CTA in a box called ?Biography? or ?About the author? that people can ignore so easily.

B)?Make the CTA directly related to the article

When I was starting out, I had one lead magnet as an incentive to get subscribers, and I was using the same lead magnet for every one of my articles.

As a result, it wasn?t always a good fit and thus didn?t perform well. In this case, though, I built what?s called a Content Upgrade (something I learned from Bryan Harris) that was specifically made for the article. It was a great fit and a logical next step for every reader that liked my article.

C)?Make the CTA about THEM, not about you

So often you see CTAs in the ?About the author? box, and because it?s called like that, people just talk about themselves. Let me be honest with you: Nobody cares about you and what you do. People care about themselves and what you can do for them.

That?s why I don?t explain what I?m doing with my life, but I explain what clicking on this CTA can do for THEM.

D)?Make clear what the reader needs to do

That may sound stupid, but just putting a link is not enough for your CTA. You need to make it clear that your reader needs to click on the link. That?s why I always include “by clicking here” in the CTA so that there is absolutely no doubt about what the reader needs to do.

That might seem like overkill, but the internet is full of distractions. You?need to make the decision brainless to ensure the best conversion rate.

E)?The CTA explains clearly what it is about

Notice that I don?t use marketing language in my CTA. I use the same words as if I were talking to you, and I explain what it will do for you. So many times you will see things like ?Get the Professional Kickstart 5-Step BluePrint for Boosting Lead Engagement.” What does that even mean? Honestly, I’m asking.

You?re not in the corporate world when you write on your blog, so please use normal words that everyone can understand.

F)?The CTA appears multiple times

Of course, more CTAs are?better. If people miss the first one, they might see the second one, and vice versa.

But another benefit is that it allows the readers to prepare in advance for what they?ll get. In this example, I mention my writing framework right at the beginning. The readers don?t know what it is yet, but it builds expectations. And once they read about it, they already know that they can download a cheat sheet about it.

G)?The CTA is clear and visible

We just said that more CTAs are?better, but this is true only as long as you’re using the same CTA. If you have CTAs about:

• Click here to subscribe
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• By the way, check this ?previous? or ?next? article
• And don?t forget to share on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Google+, and so on
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In this case, more CTAs are?not better. They’re actually worse because, faced with too many choices, your reader will end up not taking action at all. That?s why you?d rather have one CTA and put all your focus on it than have multiple CTAs that will perform worse overall.

This is very important, as sometimes you write a guest post and your CTA will be?surrounded by many other CTAs from the blog’s owner. Usually, yours is just a couple invisible lines, and his are huge pictures with flashy colors. This simple detail can be the difference between getting hundreds of subscribers or just a few.

7. Go the Extra Mile

Writing the perfect article requires a ton of effort. As you learned in this article, there are many factors that influence the quality of your article, and you might think that you need to get all of them right.

It isn?t true.

Most people out there aren?t ready to put the necessary hard work to create remarkable content. As a result, most blog posts are just common short pieces that all look the same and bore their readers.

That?s good news for you. It means being remarkable isn?t that hard. If you apply only the first two strategies of this article, you?re already way ahead.

Sometimes, you want to write something epic. We?re not talking about remarkable content anymore, we want something that is truly excellent.

I actually don?t recommend you spending too much time on each of your articles to make them all perfect. At a certain point, the benefit becomes too small for the amount of time exerted.

But that being said, here are extra items to consider if you want to take your article to the next level:

A) Fix grammar mistakes and awkward phrases

When people think about writing well, they think about style and grammar. But that?s actually the least important stuff.

All you need is to make simple sentences and to not have too many grammar mistakes in your articles. It?s totally fine if you have a few typos here and there. People won?t be mad at you for this. I promise.

Recently, I asked a friend for advice on how to go to Thailand and live there for a few months because he just did it recently. We jumped on a call, during which he told me it wasn?t necessary to take notes because he would send a follow-up email with all the information I needed.

He sent his email. It was long and detailed, and I was incredibly grateful for the considerable time he had spent?to help me and give so many insights. At the end of the email, he wrote:

P.S. Excuse the typeos, bad grammar, etc, I just went for a complete brain dump with no edits lol

I was like? WHAT? This guy just gave me a TON of value, and he apologizes for making mistakes? I don?t care about mistakes ??this was extremely helpful!

And this should also be true for each of your blog posts. When you write epic articles that help them, most people won?t care about grammar!

For any normal article, do this:

• Print the article
• Read it aloud
• Fix any mistakes and any awkward phrases you spot on the paper
• Edit it
• Stop here

That is good enough.

If you want to go the extra mile, I recommend hiring an editor who will do it for you. You can find one on Fiverr for a cheap cost. I did it when I was starting out and was making a lot of grammar mistakes because I?m not a non-native English speaker. That?s how I learned.

B) Put links to more comprehensive resources

You can?t put?everything into your articles. You need to have a specific focus and then redirect your readers (via hyperlinks) to more comprehensive resources when you talk about something else.

Links allow you to promote other content you have written. Through the links, anyone reading your article will have the chance to discover other articles from?you.

Links?also allow you to promote the content of other people. Of course, you don?t really benefit from it, but everyone will appreciate it and it can help to build relationships.

Keep links natural and try not to overwhelm the reader. Sometimes, I stumble upon articles with links in?almost every sentence. As a result, I just ignore all of them. It?s too overwhelming.

You shouldn?t force yourself to put links. Only add them when you feel it is necessary and really add value to your reader.

Always keep the reader’s interests in mind. You?re writing articles for them, not for you. Even if you want to put more links for SEO purposes, make sure they?re relevant.

C) Use expert quotes

Something that helps a lot with establishing your authority and bringing more credibility to what you say is to strengthen your writing with expert quotes.

Simply show that famous people share the same opinion as?you. We mentioned earlier to add examples, stories, etc. Adding experts? quotes is another possibility to illustrate your points.

You could either use something they already wrote as a quote or directly ask them for an original quote. That?s what people do when they create those “expert roundup” posts.

They gather a lot of quotes from experts in one article around a specific topic. The next step then is to let those experts know, contact them, and hope that they will share your article because they?re featured in it.

And speaking of?sharing your article, here is another important point to go the extra mile…

D) Make sharing easy

If people need to copy/paste your URL and think of a message to tweet your article, they won?t do it.

However, they will if they can directly tweet your article with?one click.

That?s why you should use something like a “Share” bar. There are many social sharing?plugins out there, but my preferred one is the one from SumoMe.

In two clicks, you can easily share the article on Facebook, Google+, Pinterest, and any other social media channel.

E) Write a compelling introduction

Look, the headline of your article is super important ? it will determine how many people click on it.

But even if they click, they?re still not convinced that the article is worth reading. That?s the job of your introduction, so you better spend enough time on it to make it really good.

Here are some great ways to write a compelling introduction:

• Write a question that triggers your reader?s curiosity. For example: ?Wouldn?t it be great if you could [enter burning desire]??
• Paint a picture with a quick story. The story has to illustrate the pains the article is solving and end with a win. For example, the basic story ?I was failing, I did something, then I was successful? works.
• Keep it short and simple. You need to convince your reader that your article is worth their time, so don?t spend too much time convincing.
• Explain?what they will get with the article. Go back to the introduction of this article and notice the three bullet points. It tells you exactly what you will get out of this.

8. Your Next Step

I won?t lie to you. Creating remarkable content is hard. It takes a lot of time, dedication, and effort. You will not be able to create something outstanding in just a couple hours.

My best articles took me more than 10 hours to write. We?re even getting closer to 20 hours for the longest one.

But it?s completely worth it?for the right article. You get hundreds of new subscribers, you build authority, you get noticed by the big guys? there are so many benefits that completely crush the strategy of ?I?m just gonna publish crappy articles every day and Google will notice.?

And to help you with this daunting task, I have created a 1-page Remarkable Content Checklist. You can download it by clicking here so that you can refer to it for each of your future articles and make sure they stand out.

Sweat.

Tears.

Hair pulling.

Nail chewing.

This is just some of what your body can endure when you have a blog. Or when you attempt to write a post.

It?s so much work, and the stress can be brutal at times. So much that it makes you want to quit.

Admit it.

You bail on those posts sometimes. Don?t you?

You decide to tweak your about page, or look through your Twitter stream, or even clean the keys on your laptop. Anything to avoid writing that post.

Why is it so difficult?

And why do you keep putting yourself through it?

You?re not getting any more readers.

Your subscription list is in a constant two steps forward, two steps back state.

And you can?t seem to get the engagement levels that so many other bloggers have.

Maybe you?re better off on the sidelines. It?s easier being the audience, the reader.

Well, you know who else has these thoughts but pushes through them?

Marathoners.

They have sweat. They have tears. Hair pulling and nail chewing, not so much. But they have blood, blisters and bladder issues to deal with. They have more gory issues too, but this is a family show folks, so we?ll leave it up to your imagination. And if you?ve run a marathon before, you know what I?m talking about.

So what lessons from marathoners can bloggers learn to push on when things get tough?

Besides the promise of a participants? medal and a dry bagel at the finish line?

The following nine lessons will get you through the sometimes grueling process of blogging.

And these lessons are practical. If you?re looking for inspirational clich?s or for ways to channel your writing muse, this is not the post for you.

So put your shoes on. Let?s go.

The Start Line

If you?ve never run a marathon, you may think the actual running part is what?s difficult. It is. But just getting to the start line is difficult too. And that?s not a metaphor.

Your alarm wakes you up at 4:00 am. You eat your pre-run tested breakfast. You get dressed.

Do not underestimate that last step.

I know you?ve been dressing yourself since you were a child, but it takes on a whole new dimension when dressing for a marathon. Why? One word. Chafing.

Then there?s transportation. Do you have a supportive friend who has no young children, enjoys waking up before sunrise on a weekend, and is willing to drive you an hour or more to the race?

And you won?t be your usual cheerful self on the ride there either.

No, you?ll worry ? out loud – that you should have eaten the whole banana instead of the half. Or that you should have brought nine energy gels instead of seven. Plus, any digestion issues you may be having. And if you?re not having any digestion issues, just wait until mile 20, my friend.

So what can bloggers learn from this?

Well, it?s not easy to start writing a post. It?s probably the hardest part. And you have to do it several times a month, or more. When you sit down, you may not even have an idea in your head yet. But if the race starts at 7:00 am, you can?t say you?re not ready yet. You just show up and start. This is what you gotta do when it?s time to write.

And it doesn?t end there. Writing one post is just the start. You?ll also need to create a plan for promoting on social media, give a compelling reason why readers should subscribe, oh, and don?t forget to create a great freebie like a checklist or a whitepaper.

So much to do, but at least you don?t need to worry about chafing.

How do you get started? Try one of these lessons:

Lesson 1:?Schedule a time in your calendar to write

Stick to it. When it?s on your calendar, it becomes a part of your day, not something you try to squeeze in if you get the chance.

Lesson 2:?Get a blogging buddy

Someone you?re accountable to. Tell them you?re going to send a draft by Thursday at 2:00 pm. There?s nothing like a commitment to a friend to get you moving.

Lesson 3:?Fuel your body

Good nutrition and sleep are not just important for athletes. It clears your mind and helps you focus. Make it a priority.

And away we go

A common strategy for marathoners is to divide the race into thirds. If you?re thinking about mile 22 in your first mile, it feels overwhelming and a long, long way away.

So you only think about the next eight or nine miles. It?s more manageable.

The first chunk of time, you?re seeing how things shake out. Is your hamstring feeling okay, can you sustain this pace, and should you have included that Bruno Mars song on your playlist?

When you?ve finished that first section, you can re-evaluate. You might be feeling great and can push your speed. Or it?s warmer than you expected, so you adjust your pace and drink more water.

You can do this when blogging too. Don?t think about hitting the 2000-word mark right when you start typing, or selling your e-book before you have any subscribers. Getting too far ahead of yourself will slow you down. You lose focus. You get distracted.

Focus on one thing at a time. And when you?re done, move on to the next.

Use the following ways to do so:

Lesson 4:?Be specific about your goals

For each block of time you?ve set aside, just work on one thing whether it?s headlines, an email campaign, or building your profile on a social media platform.

Lesson 5:?Be flexible

Maybe you?ve written the introduction for a post, and you suddenly get a great idea to include in the conclusion. I wouldn?t wait until conclusion writing day. Get it down now. Sometimes, you get a little wind at your back ? so go with it.

The lost miles

A time comes in every marathon when the energy and excitement of the beginning ends, but the finish line is nowhere in sight. I call these the lost miles.

This is when your mind starts playing funny tricks.

You see a tree, and there?s a glowing light surrounding it. Calling you. Telling you this is the perfect place to take a nap.

Or you wonder why you thought this race was a good idea. It?s not a good idea. It is, in fact, a bad and painful idea. You should stop.

And you think about stopping. But then what?

You’ll experience immediate relief. Then regret. Then shame.

So you keep running instead. It?s actually easier than dealing with the shame of stopping.

Then you start humming the chorus from that Bruno Mars song. You hum that same chorus, again and again, for the next five miles.

You’ll get no immediate payoff when you?re nurturing a subscription list or while you?re in the middle of writing a blog post. It may even feel like a chore. But you don?t want all of the work you?ve put in to waste away. Yet, you?re not sure where you?re going with this whole blogging thing.

It?s so much work, and you can?t even tell if it?s going to lead somewhere. Will anybody actually read it this time? Or what if you write a killer post but then never get another idea again?

So many thoughts are running through your head.

Maybe you?ll just finish writing one more post, then quit.

Yes, let?s do that.

Or, you could try this:

Lesson 6:?Think about how you?ll feel if you stop

Unsatisfying, right? When marathoners feel like stopping, they tell themselves they?ll just run one more block or until the next water station. When they get to that spot, they do it again. You can finish the whole race, an entire post, or a newsletter this way.

Getting Closer

Marathoners have a saying. They say that all of your training is for the last six miles. Yes, you?re running 26.2 miles, but it?s those last six that count.

The end is in sight, but you?ve got the most arduous miles ahead of you. You?re definitely not going to stop now. You might walk, or limp, but you?re still upright and moving forward, dammit!

You can?t decide what?s more painful. Is it your left hip, your right ankle, or your lungs? Or that once-loved Bruno Mars song? (You?ll never listen to it again.) Everything else is numb. Numb or painful. I?m not sure if I?ve emphasized the painful part enough?

And now there?s a hill. Really?

Why do the spectators look so relaxed and cheerful while holding their stupid coffee cups and wearing their stupid athletic wear? They?re not even participating in a sport. They?re just standing there. Why do you need to wear Lululemon just to stand there? Don?t they know what you?re going through?

Sorry. I?m cranky. This part?s hard. It?s a bit difficult to find perspective.

Oh.

Is that?

Yes, it?s the finish line. Look at all these people cheering for me. I love spectators. I can see the end. I can really see it! Here I come. Watch me fly.

I get that same unexpected burst of energy when I?m close to completing a blog post. This is really happening, I think. I?m really going to do this! The words, which were so difficult to excavate earlier, are streaming through my fingers. The keyboard on my laptop sounds like a tap dancer rather than the slow drip of a leaky faucet.

Yes! I did it! My 17 subscribers are gonna love this post!

Maybe your second wind comes when you hear from a reader who says your blog helped her learn a new skill, or when you get a bunch of new subscribers, or when you finally figured out how to add that widget to your site.

And when you get that second wind, it feels incredible. You feel powerful and forget about the struggle ? you think, ?That wasn?t so bad.?

Which leads me to some final lessons:

Lesson 7:?Success looks different for every runner and blogger

Maybe you?re an elite runner, and you?re gunning for gold, or maybe this time last year you could barely jog around the block. If you?re new to blogging, getting a single post out every month is a success; if you?re a veteran, you may be looking to sell your book to the subscribers list you?ve been nurturing for years. Define your own success.

Lesson 8:?Compete with yourself

Marathoners are competitive people who are always working for a personal best. Most are not trying to beat someone else; they’re trying to find excellence within themselves. Strive to improve something every time you sit down to write.

Lesson 9:?Encourage your fellow bloggers just like a spectator cheers for a marathoner

Comment on their posts, or share them on social media. When it?s your turn to get cheered, the encouragement will help you to keep moving forward.

The Finish Line

You did it! You crossed the finish line. Whatever your finish line is ? a move to full-time blogging, financial independence, or consistently writing a post.

Things were rough for a while.

But you kept up your momentum. One step at a time.

It wasn?t easy. You endured pain. And the voices in your head almost made you stop.

Think about how you feel right now. Good, right?

No, not good. Awesome! Like you can do anything you want.

Enjoy this feeling. Remember it. You earned it.

You?ll think about this feeling when things get difficult again (and they will).

But you know how to cope now ? with nine solid lessons to keep you going when you want to quit.

With these lessons, you?ll look forward to new challenges. Why? Because every challenge you meet changes you for the better.

But for now ? enjoy a long shower and a good meal. You deserve it.

It isn’t any mystery how popular bloggers make money.

They send 27 different emails to their list of 100,000 subscribers with any old offer they’ve cooked up, and boom! Some of them buy.

Or they pop AdSense ads all over their blog, and make thousands a month in affiliate commissions.

Unfortunately, it’s not so easy for those of us with a smaller blog audience. We have to go about selling a different way.

But small bloggers can earn very well. You don’t need to go massively viral and acquire a giant email list — if you build a close relationship with your audience, and sell products or services that are exactly what they need.

I know, because I started earning six figures from my blog back when it had less than two thousand subscribers.

How can small blogs earn big? Let me unpack a few tips the big gurus don’t tend to mention, that help low-traffic blogs rack up serious money with their own offers:

1. Don’t jump the gun

I recently reviewed about 100 of my readers’ blogs. Know what I saw, over and over? Tiny, startup blogs with no audience, no comments, no social shares — but covered in advertising.

When I asked if those ads were bringing in any real money, I didn’t get a single ‘yes.’

That’s because selling the moment you launch a blog is a bad plan.

Selling is not step one in building a blog that earns. It’s down the road.

First, you need to envision a focused niche for your blog, where you see other blogs earning well. Once you’ve launched your blog concept, just focus on attracting readers — and getting them to subscribe.

Work at that until you have at least 100-200 of them. If you’ve got 300-500, that’s even better.

Now, you’re in a position to begin thinking about what you could sell, and figuring out what to charge for it.

Here’s how you answer those questions:

2. Don’t guess — ask

Now that you’ve attracted some readers who’re interested in your topic, you can take the first essential step toward earning without a huge list: Bond with your readers. Give them free goodies. Send them exclusive emails with useful or inspirational ideas that don’t appear on the blog.

Once your readers are raving that you are their go-to source for info on your topic, you can develop something to sell them.

How? Start asking questions. One of the advantages of being a small blogger is that you can get closer to your readers than the big guys.

If you have an idea for a product or service you think would be useful to your people, don’t assume your idea would be a hit with your audience. Don’t create your offer in a vacuum!

Instead, ask readers. Take a poll. Create a question-based blog post. Start a discussion. If they’re local, take a dozen of them out to breakfast to chat (yes, I’ve done that). Find out what they may have already purchased and what they thought of it. Discover what’s missing from the marketplace that they wish they could get their hands on.

While you’re at it, ask them how much they’d expect to pay for this item — and do some market research on what other, similar offers cost.

Important final question to ask, if you’re developing your own unique offer: How would your people like this delivered? You don’t want to bust your hump creating a video series if they’d prefer PDFs.

You may think just a hundred or so subscribers is too small of a sample for this market research to be useful, but in my experience, it’s not. I created a service that earns over $300,000 a year with the data from an 80-person survey.

Even with a small sample, you’ll be miles ahead compared with simply guessing at what product or service to create. Gather all your input, refine your idea, and then you’re ready to move forward.

3. Preview your coming attraction

Now that you’re no longer fantasizing about what your audience wants and have real data to work with, you can create a first version of your offer. Don’t worry if it doesn’t have every bonus or feature you’d like — just get the fundamentals of it together. Next, recruit beta-testers to try it out.

If you’re like me, you’ll get a ton of valuable feedback from that process, and refine/expand/alter your offer based on that input.

While all this is going on, you are slyly engaged in preselling your offer. For low-traffic bloggers, preselling is critical.

You’re mentioning your offer and describing it, when you recruit volunteers for the beta-test. Maybe you’re posting sample covers of that e-book on Facebook. You can email and let people know how the beta-test is going.

You might create a free case study from your course, or a sample chapter of that e-book to give away. More useful preselling.

You’re not overtly saying, “Buy something from me” during all this, but you’re educating your audience that a paid offer is coming. The more you do this, the easier the next step will be.

4. Be a low-key seller

Now that you?ve built all this vital groundwork ahead of your sale, selling should be fairly easy. The only trick is not wearing your small subscriber list.

Remember those 27 emails I mentioned up top? I never send that many ? and most of my subscribers only see a few messages about any particular offer, unless they express some active interest.

Here?s a typical segmentation sequence for one of those premium course marketing cycles I describe above:

• Presale email: Waiting list only ? The offer you wanted is ready ? here?s a special price on it
• Email 1: All subscribers ? I have a free event coming up, save the date
• Email 2: Only those who didn?t open email 1 ? ?Don?t want you to miss this’
• Email 3: Useful post or email exclusive on the topic, with banner or link to offer
• Email 4: Only those who?ve opted in????Here?s how to get the most out of this free training?
• Email 5: Email everyone the day of free event
• Email 6: Only opt ins ? Here is the replay link
• Email 7: All subs — ?last day to sign up for replay/registration open now? email
• Email 8: Only those who opened recent campaigns ? FAQs or a success story about the product
• Email 9: Only those who?ve clicked nothing yet???A ?lifestyle? message about how the offer will make readers? lives better
• Email 10: Everyone gets a ?last day to sign up? email
• Email 11: Opt-in list only ? gets a second last-day email 4-8 hours before closing

You can see that with this method, most subscribers don?t get very many emails, and the whole email sequence is shorter than what the big bloggers often do. You avoid annoying your readers this way.

If you?re still getting a lot of unsubscribes despite segmenting your list during your email sales cycle, there’s one more tactic you can use: Offer them an ‘opt out’ box they can check to not receive any more emails in this sales cycle.

Yes, that means they don’t buy now — but it also means they don’t unsubscribe. They stick around and may buy your next offer.

5. Price for volume sales

If I see one more training about how you?ll never earn well until you have a $10,000 product, I?m going to puke. Price points like that really fail for small-audience blogs. We just don?t have enough prospects, and can?t hit our lists as hard as you need to, in order to sell a pricey offer.

Instead, drive volume sales with crazy-low prices on an offer that delivers high value. This has been the whole secret of my success ? most of my sales are from products and services that cost $25 or less. With fewer readers, you need a higher percentage of them to buy than the popular bloggers do.

Especially if it?s your first offer, you should be pricing it super-low. Think $1-$5. The point of this first product is just to start people buying, not really to make money. Use this as a ?previous buyers? list you can hit harder when you sell the next thing.

Final thoughts

To sum up, if you haven?t attracted a few hundred subscribers yet, just concentrate on making that happen. Then, involve your readers in creating your offer. Presell it, and then soft-sell it. You shouldn?t have to work harder than that, if your readers were instrumental in creating your product.

Your information is solid.

Your take is unique.

And you?ve got your niche.

But it?s still just a handful of people on your subscription list.

It feels impossible to get more readers. And the ones you do have are not engaging with your content. Just silence ? except for the occasional notice about unsubscribers.

The writing comes easy. You?re bursting with ideas. It?s really just a matter of transcribing your thoughts.

When you read your finalized posts, you like how you explain every detail, but it doesn?t sound as exciting as you feel it should.

It leaves you feeling empty, like you?re missing something.

That something is the step you must take between writing and publishing your post.

You must edit. And not just a spell check and a scan for missing punctuation.

If this is your idea of blog editing, there?s good news. Your posts will only get better.

But before we start, you should know something first.

Editing hurts. It demands focus. It takes nerves of steel and a willingness to say goodbye to that brilliant turn of phrase in paragraph 42.

But once you learn how to edit, you?ll have readers hanging on to every perfectly thought-out word, foraging through previous posts to get more of what they crave, sharing your words with their hungry friends, and waiting, with mouths watering, for your next polished post.

Ready to serve up some quality copy?

Appetizers

Before we get to the entr?e, let?s talk about how you can revise your introduction to whet your readers? appetites.

You may have some facts and preamble that are endlessly fascinating to you about what led you to write a particular post.

But you know what?

I hate to say it.

I don?t care about the dry facts or the boring preamble. Not at all. Nobody else does either. Even your mom. She?s just being polite.

We all just want our information and carry on with our day, thank you very much.

I?m being selfish you say?

No more selfish than you wanting to write a page of backstory before you tell your audience what you?re writing about.

(I?m rubber. You?re glue.)

So when you?re editing an introduction, you may discover that some of the facts are better sprinkled throughout your post to back up your statements, or that the information you have in paragraph four has the most interesting point you want your reader to learn.

But how do you know if a fact is dull and what the most interesting point is, especially when you think that everything you wrote is so very interesting and necessary?

Think about it this way.

You?re watching TV and you see a giant monster invade your city, rampage through the streets, and crush buildings as if they?re made of cardboard. The newscaster says the monster is a result of an experiment gone wrong and explains the scientific facts behind it.

You need to get out of town. On the way to your car, you see your neighbor over the fence. Do you tell her about the facts or the experiment first, or do you skip that part and go straight to, ?Get the heck out of town before the monster crushes you!?

Once you?re safely in your car, you can fill your neighbor in on the details and the back story.

You want to compel your reader to keep reading. And by offering the tastiest morsels first, you make it easier to swallow.

Deleting the first three paragraphs will be hard. It will cause you some anxiety.

What if your new version stinks and you can?t put it back together? Or you put it back together and it doesn?t quite look right? Kind of like that Ikea bookshelf.

If you truly can?t bear to delete your words, paste them into another document. They may work better further into your article, or you can save them for another post.

But you?ll probably never see them again. Carry on.

Hot Dogs

Okay, let?s get to the meat, or to the meat-like substance.

Read enough blog posts and you?ll see a whole lot of filler. Long-winded stories, interminable anecdotes, and superfluous details.

It?s like hot dogs. They?re made up of lips, and, well, other parts you don?t want to know about.

After you?ve eaten that hot dog, you don?t feel so good. You?ve got a tummy ache, and you?re a little bloated. Then, an hour later, you?re hungry.

You won?t be fooled by a hot dog again.

This is how you feel when you read something that?s in desperate need of an editor. Full of stuff you don?t want, and the bits you do want are drowning in mustard. (Or ketchup, if you eat your hot dogs wrong.)

Take a look at the following paragraph that?s in need of a good edit:

Researchers from the National Walkers Health Study analyzed 23,000 people who walked 30 minutes three times per week, and 15,000 people who were sedentary. Over a five-year period, the research group looked for differences in health outcomes for the two groups. Scientists discovered that walking just 75 minutes per week improves fitness and reduces your risk of cardiovascular disease, osteoporosis, and type 2 diabetes. All participants were between the ages of 35 and 65.

How to improve it:

Scientists say that walking just 75 minutes per week improves fitness and reduces your risk of cardiovascular disease, osteoporosis, and type 2 diabetes.

This is good news for sedentary people. Even just a small amount of physical activity can make a significant difference to your health.

Researchers learned this after a five-year study that examined both moderately active and sedentary people.

The first example buries the interesting stuff under some dull information and sentences.

Forcing your readers to find the good stuff will send them looking elsewhere.

Steak

Instead of giving your readers filler, give them some quality information.

Give them steak. It?s a meal you look forward to. A special occasion meal.

Don?t you want your readers to show up hungry with anticipation and leave satisfied? Satisfied and looking forward to that sweet, sweet melt-in-your-mouth taste again?

So give them what they want. They want to be informed, or entertained, or inspired.

They don?t want long-winded musings, or stream-of-thought ramblings.

When it?s time to edit, remove the filler, and give them premium fuel:

Short paragraphs

Whether you?re new to blogging, or you?ve been at it for a while, you know one of the basics is to keep your paragraphs short and scannable.

This doesn?t necessarily mean you write a paragraph with six or more sentences and then divide it up during your edit.

First, eliminate words and information you don?t need. You might just end up with two sentences that say the same thing, but better.

Take a look at the following:

All exercise programs will help you to improve your fitness level, no matter what level of fitness you are at currently. Whether you are sedentary, a weekend warrior, or a beer league athlete. The problem is that people are not consistent with their exercises and routines, or they get impatient with the speed of improving their fitness, or they are unrealistic about the fitness level they think they can achieve. My cutting-edge program combines over 10 years of experience, successful results for my clients and backed up by the latest scientific evidence as well as real-world experience.

How to improve it:

My exercise program has proven results to help you achieve your fitness goals.

Whether you are sedentary, a weekend warrior, or a beer league athlete, I have the experience and scientific evidence to make things work for your lifestyle.

I will help you overcome the obstacles that have prevented your fitness success.

Short paragraphs are easy on the eyes. And despite having fewer words, they say so much more to your readers.

Concise sentences

Trim the fat. You don?t need phrases such as ?at the end of the day? or ?due to the fact? or ?unbeknownst to me.?

Remove these phrases, and leave only the words you want to say and nothing else.

Full of fat:

Due to the fact that people are not getting enough exercise there is a growing epidemic of preventative diseases.

Lean, mean writing machine:

Regular exercise prevents disease.

When you don?t remove excess words, it slows down readers and muddles your brilliant thoughts.

Easy to understand analogies

When you write to educate about a specific industry or a complex idea, see if you can use an analogy to explain it. Review your post and look for jargon ? if you find some, take it out. Think about your readers, and explain it in a way they can understand.

You might have an auto repair blog post that explains why OEM parts are superior to aftermarket parts, but if your readers aren?t familiar with these terms you?ve lost their attention.

Or worse, you?ve made them feel stupid.

Remove the technical jargon, and replace it with an analogy. Let them know it?s brand name versus generic, and they get it.

Active voice

Use an active voice. “Eat that juicy steak.” Not a passive voice. “A hot dog was eaten by that sad-looking man.”

An active voice is both more interesting to read, and it creates authority and credibility. When you write with a passive voice it sounds like you don?t quite believe what you?re writing.

Scan your post for passive voice, and see if you can make it active. That?s not always possible. Sometimes, your only choice is a hot dog – as all parents who?ve been to a school fundraiser know.

Redundancies

Eliminate redundancies from your writing. Redundancies occur when you write information that is repeated or not necessary.

Like this:

The hot steak is hot.

This is better:

The steak is hot.

Or like this:

Removing redundancies gives you the opportunity to tighten your writing and improve the reading experience. And we all want to write better. When you remove sentences that say the same thing as another sentence, it makes for tighter writing and better reading.

Do this instead:

Remove redundancies to improve your writing.

Sometimes, you want to repeat information for emphasis or to make it stick in your reader?s mind. If you do this, it should add to the reading experience. Like a side of buttery mashed potatoes.

Walk, then talk

After dinner it?s nice to go for a walk before you eat dessert.

It gives you time to digest. To create some space in your tummy for that chocolate cake.

So give yourself some time away from your post too.

Create some space in your mind. Give your thoughts some room to move.

When you?re ready to review your post, read it out loud.

That?s an effective way to hear the rhythm of your writing, and to find inconsistencies with your style.

If you?re aiming for a conversational style, you may discover that your writing sounds formal when you speak it. You might have missed it is or you are when writing, but when spoken, you hear that you should turn them into contractions of it?s and you?re.

You may also find that you keep stumbling over your sentences when you?re reading out loud. Stumbles can indicate more editing is necessary.

Or it might just be that your mouth is full of chocolate cake.

Dessert

Getting your words on paper, or online, is just the first step in creating delicious content. The kind of content that readers crave.

Before you deliver your appetizing words, take some time to edit. Making hot dogs is easy, but steak takes skill.

With these Grade A tips, you can slice and dice with the best of them.

Forget the filler. No more handing out empty calories to your readers.

Because you want to serve up the leanest, most flavor-packed post possible.

And now you know what to look for. Get rid of those redundancies, banish the boring backstories and add some analogies.

With these edits, your posts will satisfy your readers? hunger, leaving them full, satisfied, and looking forward to more.

Bon app?tit.

Are you obsessed with blogging?

As bloggers, it’s easy to find ourselves up late at night tweaking this or that, checking our analytics obsessively, or responding to our latest comments.

But what does this mean for our friends and family?

Unfortunately, it often means putting them on the back burner. More and more, time we once spent with loved ones has become time spent indulging our latest blogging obsession.

It’s not because we’re cruel or indifferent – we just want our blogs to succeed. And with this drive to succeed comes a compulsion to fully immerse ourselves in the task at hand.

So how can we remain connected to our loved ones without sabotaging our blogging efforts?

How can we reignite connections with our loved ones even when it feels like we’re focused on completely different things?

The Anatomy of a Typical Social Life & Why Blogging Disrupted Yours

Before diving into how to reignite a great connection with our dearest, let?s first examine what makes good times together feel so good.

Is it just about being physically together? Or is there something more to it?

Most often, quality time is about joint enthusiasm ? a joint focus on anything from a great TV series, a hike, or even joint projects like home renovations and?parenting.

And before blogging inserted itself into your life, you probably had a routine carved out to regularly engage in such activities with your loved ones.

But then, likely quite suddenly, blogging swooped into your life and ripped you away from your social routines.

And there your family and friends sat, dumbfounded, wondering what happened to your relationship. They probably even felt a bit abandoned.

Of course, logically, they likely?realize you?re just excited about a new hobby or venture. But emotionally? It’s difficult for them not to?feel displaced.

If you?re like most people facing a situation like this, you probably feel quite torn between going back to how things were and your new addictive interest.

Fortunately, there’s a solution.

The key is to learn a new way of connecting with family that isn?t about coincidental joint enthusiasm.

By developing a bit of skill, you can blog while knowing?your loved ones feel as close to you as ever.

The Secrets to Getting Your Friends and Family Cheering For Your Blog

In the past, you felt emotionally connected to your friends and family most easily when you shared mutually enjoyable experiences.

Your connection was fueled by a coincidence of interests.

The secrets to staying connected even while you pursue a new, different interest are all about efficiency and skill.

The better you get at creating emotional connections ? instead of relying on coincidental joint enthusiasm – the less you?ll feel pressure to revert to the status quo instead of spending time on your blog.

Let?s look at the key examples in action.

1. Ask These Magic Questions to Make Them Feel Cared For

If you’ve been blogging for any real length of time, I?m willing to wager you?ve dealt?with some discord at home due to your blogging obsession.

It?s important to remember your loved ones are probably feeling a bit abandoned. Before, they had a companion who shared common interests. Now it feels like?you’ve moved onto something else without them.

The old you may have delighted in 20 minutes of playful banter around choosing the perfect pizza toppings, but the new you is jamming 2 slices into your mouth in 5 minutes flat and scampering off to your laptop.

Whereas in the past you didn’t have to do anything special to show your loved ones you cared about them, now you do. Now you need to go?above and beyond to prove to them you’re on the same page.

And the best way to do that is?asking them questions.

This is a basic relationship skill that was always important, but it?s even more important now that you?re not sharing the joint pleasures you used to share.

In the past, feeling close happened after watching a 2-hour movie or going on a long walk together. With the right questions, you can spend 10 or 15 minutes and get the same feelings of closeness.

If you?re stumped on what to ask, consider picking a question or two from the acclaimed list of questions that psychologist Arthur Aron found to be so powerful. How powerful? They’ve been shown?to?induce romantic love in total strangers!

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?

If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?

(Don?t worry; you can use these questions on your platonic friends without danger of converting them into love zombies.)

After you ask the questions, sit back and LISTEN to the answers. (You can check out a special guide I prepared on how to listen like a pro for free by clicking here).

Questions like these will definitely get your close relationships back on track, but chances are your family will want to talk about more than fun, hypothetical topics.

They will probably also want to talk about you and their own questions and concerns about what the heck you?ve been up to hidden away in your home office.

Handling those questions?is the next base you?ll want to make sure to cover.

2. Address Their Concerns Head On, Even If You Think They?re Silly

Since you know you still care about the people in your life, you may find the notion of having to defend your loyalties a little silly and annoying.

You may wish the people in your life would “just understand.” You want support, not concern.

However, for the reasons mentioned above, it may not be that easy for them.

You?re going to have to do the opposite of what you feel like doing. Instead of emphasizing your own point of view, you need to emphasize theirs.

That means putting?yourself in the shoes of your loved ones and probing into their fears and concerns – even if you yourself know some of the concerns are silly and unfounded.

Depending on the vibe your friends and family have been putting out to you, ask questions like:

Do you feel like I have been preoccupied lately?

Do you feel kind of abandoned by me?

Are you worried that I?ve lost my mind?

Does my new project make you wonder about whether or not I?m planning on changing my career plans?

By anticipating and acknowledging their feelings, you will be going a very long way in helping to stabilize them.

This technique ? validating feelings ? is the main technique employed by suicide hotline volunteers to stop possible suicide attempts in their tracks. It is that powerful.

So, now you know how to reassure your friends and family that you care about them, but?what about your emotional needs?

How do you get your friends and family to care about your new hobby and make you feel supported?

3. Use This Simple Trick to Inspire Their Interest in Your Journey

Since you?re in the midst of a long and fascinating blogging journey, you may be inclined to share everything about what you?re learning with your friends and family, just as you?ve always done when something?s been exciting to you.

If you reflect on it, I suspect you?ll notice one of the things that?s been getting in the way of you and relationship bliss is the fact your friends and family might not be as excited about the ins and outs of blogging as you are.

Blogging can feel like it involves 101 different skills. There is so much to digest and master as a blogger it can make a person?s head spin.

But if your head is spinning and you?re the one dedicating hours to learning and understanding each week, imagine how your loved ones must feel every time you launch into a long monologue about the virtues of email marketing over social media marketing.

Yeah. Exactly.

Still, you want your faithful companions to bear witness to your journey. That’s part of what a relationship is about, after all!

Fortunately, there is a neat little trick that will make getting this need met much more likely.

All you have to do is ask before launching into a long, complicated, meandering story about whatever it is that?s on your mind.

Say:

“I’m debating?whether or not to?put pop-ups on my blog. Want to hear my pros/cons list?”

By simply requesting permission before dumping something technical and potentially boring onto the lap of your companions, you make it much more likely they will be open to listening.

Why? Well, autonomy has a lot to do with it. When we feel like we have control over something, we are less likely to feel overwhelmed by it.

And let?s face it: The ins and outs of blogging can be straight up overwhelming -?especially for a bystander.

So get permission before sharing about your project! And don?t take it personally if the answer is ?no? from time to time.

Finding out what aspects are interesting to your friends and family (and which aren?t) will be very helpful in cultivating the?long-term interest and support of your loved ones.

4. Avoid This Mistake or Risk Turning Them Off Your Blogging Adventure Forever

Even though blogging involves a very broad spectrum of skills and topics, in time you’ll begin being perceived as?somewhat of an expert.

This will put an even bigger space between you and your loved ones, and at times you may feel tempted to wave away or dismiss their naive suggestions and ideas.

Don’t do this.

If they are engaged with your blog to the point of offering input, be happy! Cherish and nurture their interest – don’t?undermine it by not poo-pooing their opinions, even if you think they’re?uninformed or flat-out wrong.

Remember: Engaging in conversations with your loved ones about your blog is about staying?emotionally connected. It?s not about having a homegrown mastermind group.

So always be polite and give sincere weight to whatever feedback?they lovingly send?your way.

At times, it may make more sense not to bother explaining why something is or isn?t possible.

The words ?that?s an interesting idea?- thank you? will go a very long way!

Recruit Support Early and Stay Blogging for the Long Haul

Embarking on a blog can be an all-consuming activity. It can be thrilling and exciting, but it can also mean leaving our loved ones feeling left out. If you’re not careful, blog jealousy will set in.

And when the going gets tough, if we haven?t maintained the emotional support of our friends and family for our blog, we may be tempted to abandon it and lose out on all of our hard work.

But it doesn?t have to be that way!

By understanding how a new, all-consuming interest can destabilize our relationships, we can learn the simple techniques to keep our relationships strong amidst a new project, and we can get our loved ones on board with our blogs.

And imagine how wonderful life will be when you have a flourishing blog and an excited support system to go with it!